Interpersonal Business Relationships

Posted On: 2005-10-22Length: 14:22

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Hi this is Joan and this is episode 8 of The Prosperity Show. Our main site is prosperityplace.com where we help people improve their relationship with money and themselves. And today what I'd like to do on today's podcast is, someone left a comment on show number 7, which you can read if you want to at theprosperityshow.com. I'm going to go over basically what he said, and then we'll take a look at what it means, because this really applies to a lot of people I talk to. And one of the things he said was, one of the major problems was that my mother who gave me such a terrible childhood is now accusing me of owing her money since birth, and also trying to control me to do what she wants me to do. And asks, can I have some suggestions on how to deal with this. Then he said, I'm not sure if deep down I have a problem with prosperity, wealth, abundance, etc. because of my childhood, and now an unjustified accusation from my mother. And even though he wants to be successful, he feels that a lot of things that are happening with his mother are holding him back. I don't know much about Hudson who left the message, but I can assume that he's an adult. And I get stuff from people all the time who are in their 40s, 50s, 60s, and they're still saying that they are where they are because of what mommy and daddy did. Now there's no doubt about the fact that mommy and daddy did do what they did and a lot of us experienced abuse, and unwise parents psychologically, and there are scars and there are hangovers from that. But we also have the right to step out of that place and let go of the past. As long as you hold onto the past, it's going to hold onto you. And what I see in this, this person is, has not said goodbye to his mother. There's such a thing as toxic parents. Years ago Susan Forward wrote a book by the name, "Toxic Parents." And I would suggest that this person, Hudson, actually read that book because, toxic parents are what they are, and they're not necessarily going to change. What I see Hudson holding onto, and I see this happens all the time, it's as if I don't let my parents go, maybe someday they'll give me the love and attention I really need. Maybe someday I'll get from them what I never got before. And the chances are that's not going to happen. And as long as you're holding onto your life waiting for our parents to do something different, your life is stuck. And this goes back to the identity factor that we talked about, I think it was in episode 3, where you get a concept of who you are and Hudson would be a person who got a concept of himself as...